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Five things to Feel More Confident In Your life

Uncategorized Jul 15, 2018
 

Hey There!

Trying out doing the weekly video on YouTube live, and planning to record there for at least the next month and post the video here.

This week's video is about a question I often get from my coaching clients - "How do I feel more confident at...", or "How can I feel enough for...".  

I've been there in my life at times, and chances are there have been times where you have struggled with feeling confident in your life, too.

When we are not confident, we cannot perform at a high level.  We become overwhelmed with the challenge, we become distracted, we feel out of control of our lives, and we can't struggle through the tough parts of the task. 

Fortunately, confidence can be generated!  Here are my five ideas to get more confident when you need it.

  1. Consistency 
  2. Challenge
  3. Agency
  4. Acceptance
  5. Consistency  :)

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Movement or how to become a supple leopard?!?

Uncategorized Jul 09, 2018
 

Im pretty excited to have picked up a cool book today, called "Become a Supple Leopard" by Dr. Kelly Starrett (check it out on amazon here.

I was introduced to Dr. Starrett from my good friend Jim, which made it cool to see him appear on some of my favorite podcasts.

So, what in the heck is a supple leopard?

What it breaks down to is being able to move with flexibility, and without effort.  Having a tech gig where I am constantly sitting has not made Mr. Shawn Buttner very supple.  So to better take care of my body, I decided to start implementing more movement training into my workouts.

The basics of the book are this.  The human body should be able to move, with full range, in some basic patterns.  You test how you can do these basic moves (like a complete squat without weight), and if you can't then you have some mobility to repair.  Check out Kelly's mobilitywod videos on youtube to see some of the magic yourself.

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How to Keep Persistent in the Face of Challenge

high performance weekly Jun 04, 2018
 

Have you ever struggled with not getting results despite how much work you have been doing?  Long hours, no promotion.  Diet and exercise, no weight loss.  Awesome relationship, no passion.  You get the point.  

It is inevitable we will come upon challenge while going after our dreams.  For me, I have been working on building my coaching practice, putting in tons of work, and sometimes feel like I am not making any progress.  

Have you ever felt this way, too?

What can you do to make sure you are progressing, or "moving the football forward"?

Here is how I think through sticking through it:

  1. Keep consistence or discipline - If you show up and do the work, eventually you will make progress.
  2. Honor the struggle - if you know struggle is part of the process and life, you can move past it quicker and not get caught up on it
  3. Remember the worthy outcome - If you believe sticking through the challenges will lead to good things for you, you family and...
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Three Books I Recommend to Level Up!

Uncategorized Apr 03, 2018
 

I often get questions about books that might help people get ahead in work, relationships, or life.

This week's video is all about three of my favorite books to recommend. 

 

If you ever struggled relating to people, or getting close, you need to check out the classic How to Win Friends and Influence People.  It’s more about building relationships than being doctor Evil or manipulation.  
 
Building Relationships:  How to Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie
If you want to be liked, you just need to act like a good person.  To paraphrase:
  1. Listen more, speak less
  2. Know the other person’s interest, and speak to those interests
  3. Project Positivity and smile
  4. Know and address people with their name
  5. Be curious and interested in others
  6. Make other people feel important, with heart
 
Persuasion and communication - Influence by Caldini:
 
 
This book shares how persuasion works, and it great for when...
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How to handle feeling alone

Uncategorized Mar 12, 2018
 

Have you ever felt like you were out of your element, didn't fit in, or out of place?

I used to feel all three of these back when I started my first job.  I moved to Arkansas from the Chicagoland area, and didn't know many people.  Everyone was great, but it just didn't feel like home.

It impacted how I showed up at work, and in my social life.  I wasn't happy.

Luckily, I had some mentors who helped me move past with some great advice.  For me, there are three things that can help you feel more connected, more engaged, or more part of the community if you ever feel out of sorts.

  1. Ground yourself in Gratitude 
  2. Figure out what you want
  3. Go Help Someone Else

The next time you are struggling to fit in, try one of these and see if they help!

 

If you are curious about high performance coaching and how to move forward to a more advanced level, check out the video here.

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How to handle delay, or that one thing you have been putting off for a while...

Uncategorized Mar 05, 2018
 

Have you ever put off doing something you knew would move you forward towards your dreams or the life you want?

Starting that new business?  Having that tough conversation with the kids about keeping their room clean?

Same for me.

I spent 5 years on a 2-year plan right out of college, trying to figure out what I wanted to do and building up the courage to actually leave the comfortable corporate gig I had.

Most times people delay because of three things: fear, lack of confidence, and lack of clarity.

 I was afraid of leaving my known corporate job because I had over $70,000 of student debt and didn't know how I would keep up with the payments.  I was afraid that the next gig I could get wouldn't be fulfilling or would be even more stressful than my corporate IT job.

I was not sure I could get another job, or if I could ever figure out a way to get rid of my student debt.

I had no idea what I really wanted for my career.  Up until getting the job at Walmart...

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How to deal with doubt!

Uncategorized Feb 26, 2018
 

Doubt is part of life.  How we respond to doubt determines how successful we are in life.

There are four different ideas to help handle doubt better, and get you back to higher performance:

  1. Mindset
  2. Action
  3. Support
  4.  Lead

You are more capable than you know, so get after it!

If you are curious on how to move forward at a more advanced level, check out the video here.

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Four Tips to Get Clearer on Your Goals for 2018

Uncategorized Jan 08, 2018
 

The big goal for me this year is to get into the best health of my life!

How can I make sure that I don't fizzle out two weeks into January?  Here are my four best ideas to get clearer on your goals.

  1. Make actionable steps.  Frame steps to achieve your goals into action statements.  "Lose weight" turns into "Eat a salad every day".  This will help guide you when you need to work on your goals.
  2. Be Clearer and more specific.  If you don't know what the next step is, you risk getting pulled into the research loop without actually getting things done.  Do all the research at once, and know what exactly needs to get done to get to your end result.
  3. Chose or make inspiring goals.  At the end of the day, if you don't see yourself being better off by completing your goal, or the pain from not completing it, then it will be a chore to get motivated to get at it.
  4. Keep is simple. The simpler the steps and process, the more likely you are to move forward....
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Vegans and Paleos, Unite?

Uncategorized Nov 06, 2017
 

Vegan - One who does not partake in food or products that have a face.  Or someone who choses not to use animal products.

Paleo - One who strived to eat like a caveman.  Or someone who choses to eat mostly vegetables and healthy meats.  Strives to not eat processed foods.

First off, I am a natural Einstein...  In this weeks live video, I started the live broadcast and had my cast iron seasoning on my stove.  Not 1 minute into my video, I smell burning... and decide to take a little journey.  Thats why there is some traveling in the early part of the video.

Gotta love live video! 

One of the thing I have been thinking about this week has been how sometimes completely different ideas have more in common than they do differently.

A specific example are the vegan and paleo communities.  They actually have many ideas in common:  

  • Clean produce - without treatment with pesticides or other chemicals
  • Ethical treatment of animals - Animals...
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How successful people think about FOCUS

Uncategorized Oct 29, 2017
 

This week I have been struggling with focus for a few of my projects.  

It has been tough to keep my mind from wandering from my work, and I started thinking about what other successful people do to increase their focus.  I thought to do a FB live video to share what my observations on focus.

Five things I noticed successful people think through to up their focus:

  1. Block time - Creating blocks of 50 minutes to work on one thing.  This helps lower distractions, and create space to "do the work"
  2. Clarity - Know why you are doing something, what you need to do, and what the outcomes are.  When you are not clear, you are easily distracted.
  3. Inspiration - Have people, music, and other things that inspire you laying around.  It can help keep you going when you need to focus, or help rest when you are taking a break.
  4. Consistency - When you have regular time set to focus, you can build momentum which builds motivation.  Not having constant focus times can lead to...
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