Our confidence comes with how clear we think, feel, and believe what our future holds.
When we are clear about who we are and what we need to do, we can take bold action towards our goals because we do not waste energy "trying to figure it out". When we know how we want to feel in our lives, we can make better choices to realize those feelings. When our future is clear, we can persevere through tough moments and situations because we know how things will turn out after hardship.
When we are not clear about who we are and what we need to do, we constantly battle ourselves in our mind. We see ourselves as strong, while we give our power away at work like a timid person. Are we strong, or timid? A strong person would walk into that office and try to make a sale. A timid person would walk by that office. Which person am I?
When we are not connected to how we want to feel, we are at the whims of our current emotions. Need to deliver on...
Part of the magic of a high performer is the ability to know how to navigate different types of people. Some people are a joy to work with - they are the helpful, positive, inspiring, all boats rise when we all succeed kind of people. After working with them, you usually feel inspired, energized, and better.
Others are the "Tough to Love" folks. Irritable, hostile, sabotaging, demotivating, stab you in the back kind of folks. You might feel emotionally drained, unmotivated, frustrated, angry, or in full despair when after interacting with these kind of people.
So as a high performer, what do you do? Do you get pissed and fight with these types of folks? Do you give up and let them do their thing? Do you just avoid them altogether?
The simple answer is: it depends.
It depends on your relationship with them. A family member is harder to completely avoid, where that one person at your coffee shop is easier. You...
It's tough out there, and the struggle is real. And there you are, doing the work, making progress, facing setbacks, and enduring. That's why you inspire me!
As a high performance coach, I'm often asked "I want to make a career change, what do I do?". A high performer knows a few things:
So how does this translate into change? Well, it comes down to understanding fear and it's opposite, inspiration!
Maybe you are afraid of changing jobs. Or moving to a new place. Maybe you have been putting off asking out that cute person at the coffee shop you get along with so well. Maybe you're afraid that getting in shape will...
It's been a busy few months, and are you feeling like you have been going strong this month?
Have you been really trying to get into gear in the new year? Me too.
Between some new business things in the pipeline, visiting venues for our wedding this year, visiting friends and family in the new year - Ashley and I have been super busy.
With all this activity, it's easy to feel overwhelmed. It's easy to get grumpy about being pulled in tons of different directions. It's easy to forget WHY we are all working so hard.
This week I needed a reminder to SLOW DOWN.
Celebrate what's good, take in the moment, and feel GOOD about all the effort.
That's why I'm talking about three things to make sure you slow down and take a breath this week. Check it out in the video above.
And if you are struggling with your New Years resolutions, goals, or what you need to do to win this year, then let's work together. My students and coaching clients always tell...
This is the first update for 2019! I've been out with family for a while, and getting settled back into the swing of things.
First off, stay tuned for info on a mid January webinar I am going to do. So many people (including myself) have their New Years "Revolutions" start to fall apart about now. So the webinar is planned to help you keep motivated towards whatever health or personal goals you may have for the year.
This weeks quick video is about some things I have been digging this year. Check it out above, and see you all next week!
PS. I am also doing a monthly training program, and this month we are talking about commitment. If you have ever fallen short of a goal you set out to complete, this is for you. Don't have it happen again by making sure you have some extra support by checking it out here.
I often get asked questions about what technology I use for my coaching business, so I thought I would do a quick video on that today.
Most people, when they ask this question, it's because they do not feel confident working with tech. The feel they need to be a software engineer, someone younger, or someone super tech savvy in order to get it right.
The great news is there are tons of easy platforms you can use to get an internet presence, and they are way cheaper than they were in the 90's.
A little about my experience. I started my adult career in 2007 as a web developer for Wal-Mart. It was super clunky, took a good amount of time to develop, and tons of resources to manage.
in 2010, I started working on a startup business and used a ton of systems like Wordpress, 1shoppingcart, a Tumblr blog, and a not cheap email marketing provider. There were monthly costs involved to process payment, and keep the email marketing functionality. And if you ever...
Today I have been working on my #Confidence online course, and wanted to share a case study from one of my coaching clients.
Have you ever put off a project, goal, or dream longer than you wanted? That's what this story is about.
It's a story about procrastination, having a dream, and waiting too long to get started. It's also a story about how one action can cause a chain of events that lead to a higher quality of life, and an even greater impact. It's a story about Emily.
Emily and I started working together years ago, and she was one of my first high performance clients. She worked at a stressful job as a counselor in a community filled with drama. Violence, crime, broken homes, and all the environmental factors that make it tough to break out and succeed.
For four years, Emily was one test away from a professional therapy credential. So when we started our work together, this was one of her goals for the coaching - take the test and move forward....
Your next level of confidence will determine your next level of success. The opportunity is to build up your confidence "reserve" so you can boldly act when you need to next.
Many people get self-confidence wrong. They think it's all about endlessly "grinding" forward, burning out, and hoping for the best. Or that they are not worth good things in life, so why bother trying. Or that they are special so everything will come easy. They get surprised when they get stuck and don't continue, because their well has run dry.
Maybe you've felt this way before at some point in your life? I know I have.
When I first started training for marathons, I thought I would just run and run and run and it would work out. I lasted a week before I wanted to give up. I wasn't confident in my training plan, so I asked around and got ideas from a few friends. Hal Higdon's "How to Train" book set up what I needed to do to survive the...
Many of my clients and students ask me questions like "I don't understand why I can't finish this project", or "I know I want to change, and I feel stuck in my current job/level of health/relationship".
So many of these folks know a bit about personal development, so it's not a lack of knowledge that prevents them from keeping focused and finishing their goals or dreams.
They know to change their "state", to remember their "why", to check their negative beliefs and self-talk, and so on.
In each case, the thing that got them unstuck was something surprising. What is the surprising thing successful people have to move forward?
Relationships - It's a new relationship, or new perception on an existing relationship.
It's having a coaching relationship that checks in and calls you out when you are inconsistent with your priorities. It's the relationship that role-models for your children. It's the relationship with your parents that makes...
Garbage In = Garbage Out, or GIGO. With so many of my clients and students, it comes down to getting better inputs in their lives so that they can have better outcomes.
The idea is from systems theory, and can be thought about like this. You have five buckets in a row. You will fill the first bucket with water, and when that bucket is filled you will take that bucket and pour it into the next one. At the end, you pour out the water.
If you start with dirty, unclear water, the chances you will end up with dirty water are high. If you start with clean water, it's much easier to have clean water at the end.
As a coach and trainer, it's my job to help make sure we start with clean water and keep it clean throughout the process so that you can change your life.
The common way to make a change goes through five steps: